For many people, Valentine’s Day is just another date on the calendar. However, if you’re in a relationship, assuming your partner feels the same way can lead to disappointment. With high expectations surrounding this romantic holiday, taking a thoughtful approach can make all the difference.
We consulted relationship expert Hensley for practical ways couples can make Valentine’s Day special and avoid common pitfalls.
1. Ease the Expectation for Physical Intimacy
Valentine’s Day often comes with an unspoken expectation of physical intimacy, which can feel inappropriate if emotional connection is lacking. Hensley suggests focusing on emotional bonding first.
“Meeting your partner’s attachment needs makes them feel both safe and loved,” she says. “Safety is absolutely critical to rekindling intimacy.”
2. Communicate Plans and Budget in Advance
Avoid misunderstandings by discussing Valentine’s Day expectations early. Agree on whether to exchange gifts and set a spending limit to prevent awkward situations where one partner gives a heartfelt card while the other splurges on jewelry.
3. When in Doubt, Do More, Not Less
Hensley advises that even if Valentine’s Day isn’t important to you, it may matter deeply to your partner. Men in heterosexual relationships should consider taking the lead in planning.
“Women often express disappointment when their partners don’t take initiative in planning dates,” she says.
4. Share a Wish List
Help your partner succeed by giving subtle hints. Whether it’s mentioning a restaurant you’d love to visit or pointing out a desired gift, dropping clues makes the day more enjoyable for both of you.
5. Stick with Flowers
A well-chosen bouquet never goes out of style. To make it more meaningful, include a handwritten note or have it delivered as a surprise. Bonus points if you know your partner’s favorite flower!
6. Express Your Feelings Thoughtfully
Instead of relying on generic greeting card messages, share specific reasons why you appreciate your partner. According to Hensley, “Authentic compliments that highlight unique qualities foster deeper connections.”
7. Plan an Adventure Together
Break out of your usual routine by planning an exciting experience. Whether it’s a spontaneous road trip or an outdoor activity, shared adventures can strengthen your bond.
8. Choose the Best Day, Not Just February 14
If Valentine’s Day isn’t convenient, celebrate on another day. Communicate plans in advance to manage expectations and ensure quality time together.
9. Acknowledge Valentine’s Day Early
Even if you have a surprise planned, recognize the day first thing in the morning. “A simple acknowledgment prevents feelings of being forgotten and builds excitement for the evening,” says Hensley.
10. Know Your Partner’s Love Language
Understanding how your partner prefers to receive love whether through words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, acts of service, or physical touch helps create a meaningful and personalized celebration.
By applying these expert-backed strategies, you can make Valentine’s Day a joyful experience for both you and your partner.
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